There is an old saying that goes, “If you love something, let it go….”? May I just suggest that letting it go is about as stupid as it gets (pardon my use of the “S” word). If you love something, especially someone, hold on tight! Not so tight that you squeeze the stuffing out, nor so grippingly smothered that there is no breath left in there, but just hold them. People and things which are loveable are getting hard to come by these days. For that matter, “love” has been receiving a less than Biblical definition lately as well. Even with that reality, “letting go” happen far too easily.
When a mother holds her baby, she holds him gently enough that he can wiggle, yet tightly enough that he can’t wriggle free. When daddy holds his daughter’s hand while crossing the street, she still is walking on her own feet, but she is never out of his hand.
That is the same way we ought to hold the ones that we love. Loosely enough that that person can be a real person and have an identity of their own. Loosely enough they have freedom to pursue things that are not especially of interest to you. Loosely enough that their breath and yours may come from a different chunk of atmosphere on many occasions. Loosely enough that you can’t become paranoid at every hint of anything that does not specifically include you.
On the other hand, we need to hold on tightly. So tightly that there is never a chance for that one we love to ever get away. So tightly that when they feel like trying to get away, and they just might from time to time, they can’t. So tightly that no one can snatch them out of your hand, even though some might try this as well.
There should be room enough for personal identities and interests. But there should never be so much room that there lacks any identity of togetherness. And there should never be even the slightest thought of an identity which is absolutely devoid of the other. After all, God loves you, and that is how he holds you. He has no intention of setting you loose just to prove that you are His.
See You SONday!
My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me. And I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; neither shall anyone snatch them out of My hand. My Father, who has given them to Me, is greater than all; and no one is able to snatch them out of My Father’s hand. (John 10:27-29 NKJV)
© SF Gallagher 2013